Read up on hard/soft theory. As macman wrote, hard nucleophiles will add 1,2 while soft nucleophiles will add 1,4. You can think of a conjugated ketone as an ambident electrophile with "soft" character at the beta-carbon and "hard" character at the carbonyl carbon. You can rationalize this by thinking about the enone resonance structures and their relative contributions to the overall structure.
The basics of hard/soft theory are that hard interactions are like electrostatic interactions. Simply bring together the "most negative" part with the "most positive" part. For soft interactions the molecular orbital interactions play a much larger role so it is more like a thermodynamic process than a kinetic, electrostatic interaction. There is more too it when you get into the orbitals, which I can explain, if you would like, but it might take a little while.