So yeah, the media temple dedicated server didn't work out. Again, I somehow broke that setup and filled their disk space spontaneously Saturday night. Fortunately there is a dedicated server provider that specializes in setting up these types of forums, so we're now at montecarlohosting.net
The good: Are tribulations should now be over
The Bad: We lost a weeks worth of posts (Jan 5th - Jan 11th) Monday-Saturday, because I make backups on Sunday nights.
The Ugly: Now this one really pisses me off. I bought the domain name Chemical Forums from fortunecityhosting, but fortunecity has sold managing rights of the domain to Hostopia. So there will be a couple days until the url structure looks like http://www.chemicalforums.com
and not http://18.104.22.168/~chemical/