I may confess that read your post several times and still do not understand
exactly what you are asking or some parts of your post. However, I will add some data if it is of interest here.
The question I have has to do with hydrogen bonding. I know it is an electrostatic/ionic type bond.
In rigor, that is not true. The electrostatic component is a small contribution (order of 1/4 total energy) to total bond.
Here is my logic. If we react O2 and H2 we get an extremely exothermic reaction that produces water. The exothermic aspect, if I am correct is due to the oxygen gaining electron density to form a stable octet. The hydrogen loses electron density to become slightly positive which should be endothermic since molecular hydrogen was zero charged. If this was physics, this would be considered an anomoly; the exothermic formation of a stable charge dipole.
That is not true. It was already pointed by Mitch that oxigen already verifies the octet rule. Moreover, there is not physical anomaly. It is all rather normal. A molecule is not formed by electrostaic forces -i believe this is the error on all your logic- therefore the formation of a stable dipole is not anomalous. Formation of water is a very stable configuration and explained by quantum theory. Next, i will use minimal basis approximation on MO SFC method (without relativistic corrections).
We begin from AO
H1s
O1s O2s O2p
z O2p
y O2p
xthen we combine them for forming the MO (Energy ordered)
1a
1 2a
1 1b
2 3a
1 1b
1 4a
1 2b
2There is a total of 10 electrons. Filling the MO, we find a great ratio (enlazant/antienlazant), which is the cause of the strong character of H-O bond on water and of great stability of molecule. Only last OMs 1b
1 4a
1 2b
2 are antienlazant and only 1b
1 is filled
The dipolar character is mainly due that the fundamental 1a
1 is practically the original O1s whereas hidrogen electrons are 'diluted' into several OMs.
In my opinion, the computation of energies from EV method would be more complex, but explanation of geometry is more accesible.
In chemistry the orbital stability of oxygen allows the oxygen to stabilize its anion state (extra electrons) while passing on the burden of potential onto the hydrogen. This should make the positve side of water the more potentiated side of the molecule.
I do not understand this part. Above discussion was quantum chemical one.
When a hydrogen bond forms in water, the hydrogen is lowering its potential, while the oxygen, by sharing its unbonded electrons, is losing some stability in the octet of electrons. As such, although charges may cancel for both the oxygen and hydrogen, the hydrogen gains orbital stability within its 1S orbital, while the oxygen loses some stability within its octet. The net result should be that the hydrogen lowers potentials in two ways (electrostatic and orbital), while the oxygen lowers electrostatic potential but gains orbital potential.
Another way to do math is that the hydrogen lowers both magnetic and charge potential while the oxygen lowers charge potential but will gain magnetic potential. The lowering of charge potential is exothermic for both. While the hydrogen will exothermically lower magnetic potential while the oxygen will endothermically gain magnetic potential. The three exothermics and one endothermic gives off about 2-10 kcal/moles of h-bonds.
i do not understand this part, specially the appeal to magnetic potential. In fact i do not know what is a 'magnetic potential'. I only know scalar A
0 and vector potentials
A.
The H bond is explained in a similar form as water molecule. Now we take the OM of water and combine them with a single OA O2p. Then it can be shown that an stable interaction is formed, because the atomic-molecular system H-O-H···O is more stable than H-O-H + O.
From an fundamental (but approximate because the real bond is not with an isolated O, it is with an O into other water molecule) point of view, the hidrogen bond is a new kind of bond. EV method is more useful now. We have main contributions to EV wavefunction:
O : H : O pure covalent
O_: H
+ :O Pure ionic without charge transfer
O
+ :H_ :O Pure ionic without charge transfer
O_: H : O
+ Covalent with charge transfer
O. H_: .O Covalent with charge transfer
From an energetic point of view one has four contributions (Kcal/mol):
Electrostatic: -6.0
Delocalitation: -8.0
Dispersion: -3.0
Repulsion: 8.4
Others: 2.5
Other contributions may be considered but computations are very difficult. Due to compensation between repulsion, others, delocalitation, and dispersion the energetic value of total bond is very well aproximated taking only the electrostatic interaction. I think that this is reason many textbooks claim that H···O is mainly a electrostatic interaction between and H(delta+) and an O(delta_) due to polar character of H-O bond.
However one can easily understand that H···O bond is not due to electrostatic, WDW, etc. The H···O bond is spatially directed (and has specific distance), which cannot be explained from an electrostatic contribution, which is spherically simetric. If H···O bond was due to simetric forces, one would find an entire family of different molecular structures (angle and distance).