I weigh my flask, and put it back onto the rotary evaporator, and weigh it again a few minutes later. If the solvent is all gone, the mass will be about the same.
I second this method. I used to do a little more also, depending on the solvent. If you are using a very volatile solvent, raise you rotovap out of the water bath and feel the flack. If it is becoming cold, solvent is still evaporating. If the flask is as warm as the bath, you are near the end. This will have more meaning if you are evaporating chromatography fractions, especially those that will crystalize. If all of the solvent evaporates, you may experience some bumping.
My rule of thumb is never ever smell your flask. Although most chemicals are not that toxic, as Disco has proven, but I think it is a bad habit.
Water wash, depends. If sample is water soluble, as little as possible, if trying to wash out something with significant organic solubility, use more water.
Drying and assuming brine wash. With a reasonably dry solvent, add some drying agent, swirl, observe, caking, add more. If flows freely, stop. This should give you an idea for different solvents. You don't want to leave your sample on the drying agent either.