let me try to give you a picture ( and I know: all those analogies are defective to a certain extend) :
consider two atomic nuclei, let's say of hydrogen, i.e. protons, at a given small distance
what "options" do they offer to electrons coming along?
well, being positively charged (and both of them at that) , of course they'd welcome something with a negative charge coming along: electrostatics would favour such an arrangement
furthermore, the repulsion of those two nuclei would be diminished, if there was something negatively charged "right in the middle" , i.e. shared by both of them
net gain of stability for the system
(as you already know, "right in the middle" is not what really will happen: a different type of electron density distribution is what the outcome will be. nevertheless, the "sharing" part is ok, and gaining stability (hence: releasing energy) also will be what we'll see)
so: we expect H
2+ to be more stable than H
22+, and that in fact is what we'll see in reality
however: let's imagine the electrons being bullet-shaped (i.e point type objects) as long as they're far away from those nuclei.
now, there's a rule for electrons if they wish to belong to those two nuclei, let's call it "hydrogen's rule".
the rule is: if you want to be with us, you'll have to disguise - no bullets allowed here. we only accept properly dressed members, meaning: waves.
furthermore, we don't allow more than two members to be dressed the same wave-type. that's the rule - take it or leave it.
... and a catalogue of possible wave types pls. find attached. some are more comfortable than others: we know ( that's why there's always a run for the most comfortable types still available).
However, it's "first come, fist serve": completely "occupied" wave - types can't be chosen again, but you can chose freely from all those types not completely occupied yet.
... and we recommend to opt in for those that are most comfortable for all of us.
you find it disturbing that some of those options seem do be derived from something that looks like an interference pattern ? don't mind: that's just the two of us, me and the other nucleus, that's "our" little internal arrangement, that's what we have in store, if you wish to say so.
be welcomed and take it, if you please, and don't bother with the origin of our nutty li'll arrangement too much...
hope this helps?
regards
Ingo